Hi All,

It has been a long time since I spent some time in this blog. Pardon for this long delay.

I have been amazed all these months, on how understanding the needs of different personalities can help in lessening the stress level for oneself.

From choosing an employee, to dealing with your business associates, to talking to your children, the lessons we learned from personalities training are immeasurable.

We just came back from Phuket, as usual, trying to put the personality strategies to work, after much conversing with the locals there, we realized that they are very high D culture. Almost everyone has this "anger" and "fazed" look on their faces. We had the blessing of a nice cabby who told us about how the places around had recovered from the Tsunami aftermath, the tourism industry has not really picked up. From our resort, we could clearly see that we were the few tourists there, the pool was filled with less than 30 people! No wonder the people had this look on their faces. They were on what I called "survivor-mode". The D has to come up to gain and keep employment, and it must be difficult to maintain happy face when there are so many chances to be laid off. The unforgiveness and anger written all over their faces made me feel sorry and kept reminding myself different situations, places, cultures and even past events can change a personality - thus the Graph 1 and Graph 2 of our assessment. Now I am very interested in looking at these 2 graphs. Some people are really "stressed" from their basic personality vis-a-vis their current situation. By understanding and knowing a little more, we change our perception of who we are dealing with, and a sense of forgiveness over events or actions per se can be rendered.

I am so buzzed up in personalities. Just this morning waking up, I was determined to help my high I daughter to conquer her fear of Chinese language. Putting on my S jacket, I kept reminding myself to tie-up my D tongue, letting go of I-tongue to praise and smile at each and every of efforts she did.... tutoring became easier and she had fun! Try it!

I sincerely urge all to continue to share more testimonies in your environment, to encourage one another towards a better understanding of different cultures as well.

Till next time, happy evolving with the understanding of personality differences. Not just understanding, I beseech you to apply these knowledge to everyday life!

Blessings to you and until next time!

God bless!
Amy

A+ Ideas For Every Student's Success By Robert A. Rohm... A Must Read Book for Teachers!

Dear all,

I've been reading this book and literally, cannot stop nodding as I go through the pages. This is a VERY inspiring book for teachers and parents. I learn a lot of things from it (even from the cover). 

After I joined the DISC training, I sometimes wonder how to really put DISC in the real classroom situation. Although I took notes of DR. Rohm's amazing insights in understanding children, I always felt that it's not enough. Reading this book felt like having his insights whenever I want them.

This book also has a parenting section which is very beneficial for teachers to understand parents and at the same time to understand how to talk to them about their child. 

Let me share with you a page that has been a reminder for me in my teaching experience.

Final Food for Thought....

Is it important to adapt and adjust my teaching style to meet the needs of all my students?

if you are a "D" teacher and only use your "D" qualities to teach, you will successfully teach 10% of your class and leaving behind 90% of your students. 

If you are an "I" teacher and use only your "I" qualities to teach, you will successfully teach 25-30% of your class, leaving behind 70-75% of your students.

If you are an "S" teacher and use only your "S" qualities to teach, you will successfully teach 30-35% of your class, leaving behind 65-70% of your students.

If you are an "C" teacher and use only your "C" qualities to teach, you will successfully teach 20-25% of your class, leaving behind 75-80% of your students.

So, these numbers made a huge impact on my teaching styles, to always adapt and adjust. Every child is special and unique. No one was supposed to be left behind.

Thanks for reading.

1. Let's help students

2. Let's help teachers

3. Let's help parents

Dear all

I was reading Zig Ziglar's weekly newsletter, really liked this one and thus love to share with ya'll! Enjoy and hope this is one of the aha's for parents out there...!

Zig On…Raising Positive Kids

By Zig Ziglar

Today I’d like to talk about a remarkable family from inner-city New Orleans, the Lundy-Smiths. Susie Mae Lundy and husband, Willie J. Smith, a Baptist pastor, raised nine successful children. According to Fortune magazine, the parents set an entrepreneurial example built around commitment, faith and hard work. Each child grew up with assigned responsibilities. By age five the six boys were expected to hose down and sweep the driveway of the family’s Exxon gas station and auto repair shop. Larry Lundy, owner of 31 Pizza Hut outlets, says they knew that what the family ate at the end of the day was contingent upon what they did during the day. That kind of motivation is pretty easy to understand - and can be very effective.

Today, Michael is a Mobil Oil executive in Houston; Harold is president of Louisiana’s Grambling State University; Mark and Wilton are psychiatric counselors in Houston; Nell is an elementary school teacher in Houston; Lloyd is a Vice President at Goodwill Industries in Beaumont, Texas; Jackie is an emergency room nurse and Yolanda is an accountant, both in New Orleans. All of them are hard-working, productive citizens and they started early. Back in 1978 all the kids led a fund-raising drive that raised about $65,000 to build the church their father now leads. These “kids” have also presented their parents with fourteen grandchildren and three great-grandchildren.

Yes, it looks like the American Dream is still alive for those who are willing to work hard and dream that American Dream, particularly if they have parents who guide and direct them early on. Think about it and I’ll SEE YOU AT THE TOP!

So Blessed!

Dear All

Today I felt so blessed and so loved by God. Being nice to people does make a great difference in life. It does pay to be nice. Pay it forward. I am sharing about this nice cabby who not only sang to me, he made my day by his positive attitude! Thank God there are still nice cabbies like Albert around, especially in Asia!

Have a blessed day!

Amy

Tip of the Week by Dr Rohm

Dear All First of all, thank you dearest Dyan for sharing her experience as a teacher using what we learned on using DiSC to be an effective and fun teacher! Let's give her a round of applause!! It is teachers like you that I applaud for your interest in our future leaders (our children!), always learning and applying to bring out the best in our kids in schools. It is our desire and hope, that one day, all teachers will know the secret to lesser stress in class is actually understanding all personalities! Amazing isn't it? Oh, oh, I just read Dr Rohm's Tip of the Week and I laughed, there are so many times, we jumped to conclusion in a jam! Yes, I am quite guilty of it. Now taking Dr Rohm's tip, make each experience a better and positive experience. Thank you Dr Rohm for your tip! For those of you who have not read yet, I have attached it below. I also can't wait to hear from everyone how you are applying your knowledge to life. :) Cheers and have a blessed week!

Tip: Responding is better than reacting! One day recently, I was driving in Atlanta traffic when suddenly it came to a stop. Everywhere I looked, traffic was at a stand-still. It just so happened that I was sitting on an overpass above the interstate, so I had a birds-eye view of what was happening. I noticed that one side of Interstate 285 was being closed down. From where I sat, I could see that it was because of a funeral procession for a police officer. The first part of the procession included several hundred motorcycle policemen. They were followed by a long line of police cars. After that were several fire trucks, ambulances and other medical vehicles. Finally, five helicopters flew overhead. With such a large procession, it completely shut down Interstate 285 for a long time. It was one of the most powerful things I had ever seen! The last time I remember actually seeing that much authority and power in one place, was several years ago when I was in traffic and the Vice President of the United States came to town. It really was amazing to watch the respect that was shown to the fallen police officer. He had been killed in the line of duty. Everyone who was able to observe what was taking place was very respectful. People stopped, got out of their cars, took off their hats, stood at attention, and paid their respects. It was a very moving moment. Again, because I was stopped on an overpass, I had a front-row seat to everything that was taking place around me, and I noticed that something else was happening. From my vantage point, I noticed that there were some drivers who were full of rage and anger because someone slowed down their progress. They were unaware of the reason for the delay, so they were angry. Someone actually had the audacity to get their spot on a piece of the pavement right in the middle of a funeral! I thought to myself, "If they only knew what was taking place, they would not react that way." Had they known that the traffic jam was because of a funeral for a fallen police office, they would have certainly changed their attitude. And, that is when it dawned on me that they were not responding to the situation, they were reacting to it. What was taking place in their minds boiled down to the fact that they did not know that two things were happening simultaneously. One was amisunderstanding of a demonstration of respect for a police officer, and the other was ignorance over the fact that no one was intentionally trying to inconvenience them! If you mix those two items together in the same cup, I can assure you that reacting will overpower responding every time. I also considered the strong possibility that had I not been able to see what was going on, it is very likely that I would have been one of the people reacting as well. After all, I am a very busy and important person, and I don't want anyone to ever get in my way or slow me down! What a joke! Since I travel so much and spend so much time in airports, I see the same thing happen there. It amazes me how upset people get at the ticket agents when there is the slightest glitch in the flight schedule. People react as though the ticket agent personally slowed down the progress of the planes in order to inconvenience their travel plans! I have discovered that flight delays actually offer great opportunity to get some extra paperwork done and make a few phone calls. Rather than it being a time to react like a child, it is much better to respond like a mature adult. It pays much better dividends, not only in my work load, but also in my emotional health as well. After all, I have found there is often very little I can do to change the flight circumstances in which I usually find myself. The truth is, in almost any given situation, if you take a deep breath and look around, you will be able to respond more appropriately. There is no point to go "ballistic" every time something does not go right in your life. Reacting only serves to raise your blood pressure and hurt your health. I am going to give you an assignment with this particular Tip. The next time something happens that does not go your way and really "ticks you off," ask yourself if JUST THIS ONE TIME it would be better to respond in a positive manner, rather than react in a negative manner. Try it on for size and see how it fits. You might be surprised at what you discover. I like it a lot and I trust that you will have the same experience! Tip: Responding is better than reacting! Have a great week! God bless you! Robert A. Rohm Ph.D. Personality Insights, Inc.

Enlightenment for a Teacher

Hi, I’m Dyan. I am a school teacher for 4 years. As long as my teaching experience in the school, having to 'control' the students in our class is a continuous demand. I use the word 'control' because this is always what the teacher is expected to do, "control the class, control the students, control the noise level, and control the movement". As  a result, I do control them...  the way my past teachers used to control her students when I was still a student. For which I think did not make any success for any of the students.

So, I started to read books, browse on the internet, and discuss with fellow teachers about the best way to control students in class. Still, I don’t feel enough. So, when I heard there’s a workshop about students’ consultation skill in a teacher education institution in Jakarta, I joined. Yeah… I’ve got some inputs. But still, I feel everything is still vague.

Finally after I joined the workshop from Dr. Robert Rohm in Singapore on January 4-7, I had my A-HA moments. From this workshop, my point of view was really changed. It is not about controlling the students, it is about understanding them. This was the first thing I picked up from him. The power of understanding is very strong. By understanding the students’ personality, we can build a good relationship with them and continue to create an ideal environment for everyone in the class. 

Now, how should I understand their personality? This was where Dr. Rohm introduced the DISC personality. These 4 letters really get the ball rolling. As I went on to learn them, I got myself an enlightenment that I have been searching.

 Memories of my class kept flashing back in my head during the workshop. “Ah, now I know why Sasha, a high D, always cut her friends line to be in front. Fredy, a high I, always gave me silly answers which make the whole class to laugh. Yooka, a high S, always let his friends pinch his chubby cheek without telling them to stop although they hurt him. Evan, a high C, always have questions for everything.” These things kept popping and popping in my head.

Now that I understand about DISC, I know what I should say, do or provide them, as everyone is unique. It’s been a magnificent experience. I am very grateful for it.

Ok, see you next time, as I share my experience practicing DISC in my class. Thanks for reading.

Fiesta in Jakarta

What a wonderful time of sharing and working in Jakarta with Vincent and Team Indonesia! We are so happy to come together joining brains with Vincent, Lynda, Kandy and Dian, not only we picked each other's brains, they loaded our tummies with yummy Indonesian food! Dr Rohm and Patrick now know what to expect when they hit the road to Indonesia, ready for Fiesta!! Lynda will sure put a big big smile on everyone with her awesome personality!

We are pleased to present the team with their certificates from Dr Rohm, CONGRATULATIONS!! Good job, you are committed in your first steps to help the young and upcoming generations, impacting their lives to be better with the tools we have learned from Dr Rohm and Patrick! Now let's go make a difference!

Blog Contribution Challenge

Good morning to all,

I woke up, did my quiet time and saw Patrick's email. Many thanks to our highly capable techno friend, who advise me to enable authors into this blog to get the ball rolling!! Goodness! I did not enable any of you to contribute in the first place! So oops, thousand apologies, I have sent out my invitation to my precious certified trainers, so please accept the invitation when you see it in the email and let's chip in the blog.

Thanks again Patrick for kindly pointing out my mistake, and guess what, I just learned a new thing from him! Hurray!

So we all hope to see sharing of ideas/stories real soon!

Have a blessed day!

Fathering is also Mentoring

Hey everyone! I am so glad in a way that I am bouncing back to DNA! Gosh, so much distractions over the holidays but I have been reading up and so here's some sharings over what I have read on Fathering.... Enjoy! Let me know what you think... pen down here...

Fathering is also a Mentoring Work

"The most important...work you and I will ever do will be within the walls of our own homes."
-Harold B. Lee

Fathering is not just a social role; it is the work fathers do every day. This work is different from a job or career in that it stems from a moral obligation to meet children's needs and actively build a caring and supportive father-child relationship. To perform these critical duties, fathers can focus on seven specific categories of work: ethical work, stewardship work, development work, rrecreation work, spiritual work, relationship work, and mentoring work. (Dollahite, Hawkins, & Brotherson, 1997). This part of our home page is related to mentoring work.

Mentoring work consists of the fathers ability and responsibility to consult (to impart ideas and stories when asked) and to contribute (sustain and support generative work of one's children). The desired result of mentoring work is generative fathers and generative children.

Story 1
As children become adults, their fathers can have an important impact on their adjustment and management of adult obligations and complexity. Mentoring work is especially valuable as fathers care for their adult children. The first story is about how a father contributed (gave assistance) to his adult son.

"They give it back. As much as you give your parents, they find ways to give it back. Seven years ago I was in a partnership in construction and it went sour. The company got into a bad situation and, without going into a lot of detail, the bottom line was that I left. All I had known was construction for five or six years, since I'd been home from my mission [for his church]. I didn't know anything else, and construction was gone. There were no homes being built, no job opportunities, and I'd soured on it from what had happened. Basically, I ended up losing a home and becoming unemployed with no money. I'd learned from my family how to survive tough times: You face situations, nothing is ever critical, there's always a tomorrow, you're not going to die, etc.

"Yes, it might be important or a sticky situation, but you'll face it and tomorrow you'll go on. However, for the first time in my life, I didn't feel like there was a tomorrow. I had no money. I had bill collectors coming to the door. It really got to me when I realized that I didn't have enough money to buy a loaf of bread to feed my wife and my one child. When you are put into situations like that, you lose all self-confidence and all feelings of self-worth. I was devastated. My father could sense that something was wrong. My parents didn't know what the situation was or how bad it was, but they just showed up with some groceries. It was as if they were saying, "We don't know what you need, but we have some extra and here it is." It's probably one of the few times that I've cried in front of my father."

Story 2

The following story tells of a father imparting insights and wisdom to his adult daughter, and how much this conveyance meant to her.

"The day was filled with excitement as I put on my cap and gown in preparation for my graduation from Ricks College with my associate's degree. I was surrounded by those whom I loved and was able to share a special moment in my life with them. In all the excitement my parents gave me a card that I did not open for some time. I sat down on the edge of the stage and opened the card while my parents were in their own world off to the side. From the moment I read the words 'Dear Janet,' my eyes began swelling with tears. I was filled with total emotion as I read: 'Dear Janet, I know we don't talk much. Communication between you and your mother seems to be better than between you and me. However, I want you to know how extremely proud of you that I really am.

"The example you set for your brothers and sisters is very important to me, but more than that, the standards you have set for yourself, places you in a class by yourself. I know you will succeed in anything you do; you've proven that many times. You have chosen well: your schools, your course of study, your work, and of course your mate. Be proud of who you are, be strong in what you do, be faithful to your convictions. You are my daughter, I love you very much - Dad.' To many people this would be a normal letter that contains words heard by their fathers many times. But to me, the words are like gold, very rare and precious. My father has never expressed his feelings to me in such a manner. Tears just streamed down my face when I read the words. I wanted to go up and hug my dad to let him know how much they meant but I was restrained. To this day I do not know why, but this experience has been held dear to me and I have cherished this card with all my heart."

Have a great day! God bless you!

Amy

No Preconceptions… Just Needs!

Hey everyone, I read this and want to share with you:

Author: Erin, 04 28th, 2009

The journey through childhood and adolescence can be long and hard. According to the National Institute of Mental Health,

• 1 out of 5 children have a mental health problem that can be identified
• 1 out of 10 children have a “serious emotional disturbance.” This means the problem severely disrupts the child’s ability to function socially, emotionally and/or academically.

The most common of these are anxiety disorders that affect 8-16% of our children. Mood disorders affect another 6-16% and behavior disorders (Attention Deficit Disorder with Hyperactivity, Oppositional Defiant Disorder, and Conduct Disorder) affect up to 32% of the school age population.

As teachers and parents, we have windows of opportunity to guide children away from the pathway of survival toward their pathway to success. We must stop documenting failure and focus our energies onpreventing it in the first place.

Children do not enter this world with preconceptions, only needs. Through their ‘dance of interaction’ with their environment and the people in it, they begin to develop an understanding of how life works. this understanding influences how each child approaches their future. When the needs are consistently met, the likelihood of positive outcomes is increased. When unmet, the results may be the statistics noted above.

So what are the needs of children?

• the need for an ongoing nurturing relationship; to love and be loved.
• the need for physical and emotional safety
• the need for a sense of belonging and community
• the need for structure
• the need for experiences tailored to their individuality
• the need to make it past survival and into the development of their maximum potential.

Every child is perfectly designed, and it is our goal to influence that design in a way that builds strong lives. As we do that, we must embrace the idea that all strong lives are built in childhood!

What is Family Coaching

Strong lives are built in childhood! There is no magic wand, it takes hard work.

Family Coaching is an opportunity to:

~ Work one on one with your own certified human behavior specialist to discover empowering perspectives and effective solutions to parenting challenges.

~Transform your parent-child relationship into one that you have dreamed of by leveraging strengths.

~Apply the most current, cutting edge insights in children’s behavior and discipline so you can move beyond bossing, begging and bribing.

In Family coaching, you will learn the same tools and insights from Parenting with Style, with a special emphasis on applying these to concerns specific to your family. Our approach is one of problem-solving rather than counseling.

Email us should you need more information: enquiry@dnagroupinc.com.sg The first counseling is free on us!

Have a happy day!
Amy

"Of all the "attitudes" we can acquire, surely the attitude of gratitude is the most important and by far the most life changing. ~ Zig Ziglar"

Is what you are doing worth what it is costing you?

Just learned from Dr Rohm's Tip of the Week:

An excerpt.....

As we begin a new year, I think it is very important to take a moment to ask ourselves a serious question. Our very life may depend upon it! The question is simply this: "Is what I am doing worth what it is costing me?" I think this question is vitally important because it will not only determine the outcome of our life, but when we take the time to ask and answer that question, it will also create a process that will guide us to the end of our journey.

Let's also look at this from a positive perspective. If we seek in this coming year to be a blessing and an encouragement to other people, that will be worth the cost. Going out of our way to be nice to someone and extending to them love and kindness may cost us time and effort, but it will pay rich rewards in our lives for years to come.

It takes so little extra effort to go out of our way to do something kind for another person or to say something especially helpful. Not only is it easy to do, but it pays rich dividends.

This principle can work for us or against us. I know that in this coming year, I am going to be seeking worthy goals and ideals for my life. I realize everything that I do is going to cost me something and I have decided that I might as well make the price of the things I am going to do beneficial! Will you join me? I can hear you saying, "Yes," already!

DNA-Personality Insights Training by Dr Rohm (Jan 4 - 7, 2010)

Hi all,

You have attended the training, you are certified, you are all geared up, you are all convinced that you can make a difference..... so what's now?

Remember what Zig Ziglar said, " ... motivation is great, but it is a lot like bathing, need to be done daily!"

For this training to be effective, you have to use it! Practise it!  You are in the position to be some of the wisest people in this world - family, culture, country etc.  You may have more wisdom than others in your company, your community, your family, your country....  !

Repetition is the mother of all learning... start applying what you have learned to people around you, watch and observe how easy it is to bring understanding to yourselves and to others.  Appreciate life right now!

...  Go make a difference!
Amy