The Appropriate Use of Words

The Appropriate Use of Words
By Napoleon Hill

The ability to speak in words and to enunciate clearly is a blessing which the Creator has bestowed on man alone. No other living creature can speak. This is a blessing which should be highly prized and respected.

The English language, as well as the organized languages of other peoples and nations, is replete with words which carry every conceivable shade of meaning. It is possible to choose the right words: words which will attract and not repel. There is no excuse for the careless use of words which will offend the sensibilities of others.

The use of profanity, at any time or under any circumstances, is wholly inexcusable. Let us remember that when we use words of profanity, we profane the name of the Creator who endowed us with the ability to use words - an ability which should be used gratefully, to the greater glory of the Creator and edification of our fellowmen.

The appropriate use of words is regarded as a sign of education and culture. The person who is able to use the proper words at the proper time has developed a very important factor in the achievement of a pleasing personality. While the inappropriate use of words can repel, the appropriate use of words, together with a pleasing and motivating tone of voice and pleasant facial expression, can go a long way toward gaining for one the attention, respect, confidence and liking of other persons.

Source: PMA Science of Success Course. Educational Edition., Pgs. 179 & 180.

Daily Handling of Different Personality Children

Hi All

Happy and Blessed New Year!

It has been a wonderful journey not just imparting what we learned in Discovering personalities, but also applying them.

Just simply these couple of weeks, I think I am guilty of all the strategies when it comes to dealing with High I child. They have tons of imaginations that the earth evolves around them can drive this mom crazy! :) Somehow in pressure time, we just want to tie them to the ground and show them the force of gravity still applies to people under the "I" category as well...! Nonetheless, I understand how many of us still struggles at various times when we need to deal with different people in different situations. We all been through it all, we are not saints, but guess what, it really makes a difference because we have all been through the course, learned to appreciate differences and now able to celebrate differences. We do goofed up sometimes, but that made us human... so don't feel bad about it for too long (as least that's how I pat myself on my back :P ). Continue to learn to understand and appreciate each other, I learned to apologise even though the fellow is just 9 years old! So hey, like Dr Rohm said, I'd rather be wrong with you than right without you!

Have a blessed week ahead!

Love you all!

Amy

Hi All,

It has been a long time since I spent some time in this blog. Pardon for this long delay.

I have been amazed all these months, on how understanding the needs of different personalities can help in lessening the stress level for oneself.

From choosing an employee, to dealing with your business associates, to talking to your children, the lessons we learned from personalities training are immeasurable.

We just came back from Phuket, as usual, trying to put the personality strategies to work, after much conversing with the locals there, we realized that they are very high D culture. Almost everyone has this "anger" and "fazed" look on their faces. We had the blessing of a nice cabby who told us about how the places around had recovered from the Tsunami aftermath, the tourism industry has not really picked up. From our resort, we could clearly see that we were the few tourists there, the pool was filled with less than 30 people! No wonder the people had this look on their faces. They were on what I called "survivor-mode". The D has to come up to gain and keep employment, and it must be difficult to maintain happy face when there are so many chances to be laid off. The unforgiveness and anger written all over their faces made me feel sorry and kept reminding myself different situations, places, cultures and even past events can change a personality - thus the Graph 1 and Graph 2 of our assessment. Now I am very interested in looking at these 2 graphs. Some people are really "stressed" from their basic personality vis-a-vis their current situation. By understanding and knowing a little more, we change our perception of who we are dealing with, and a sense of forgiveness over events or actions per se can be rendered.

I am so buzzed up in personalities. Just this morning waking up, I was determined to help my high I daughter to conquer her fear of Chinese language. Putting on my S jacket, I kept reminding myself to tie-up my D tongue, letting go of I-tongue to praise and smile at each and every of efforts she did.... tutoring became easier and she had fun! Try it!

I sincerely urge all to continue to share more testimonies in your environment, to encourage one another towards a better understanding of different cultures as well.

Till next time, happy evolving with the understanding of personality differences. Not just understanding, I beseech you to apply these knowledge to everyday life!

Blessings to you and until next time!

God bless!
Amy

A+ Ideas For Every Student's Success By Robert A. Rohm... A Must Read Book for Teachers!

Dear all,

I've been reading this book and literally, cannot stop nodding as I go through the pages. This is a VERY inspiring book for teachers and parents. I learn a lot of things from it (even from the cover). 

After I joined the DISC training, I sometimes wonder how to really put DISC in the real classroom situation. Although I took notes of DR. Rohm's amazing insights in understanding children, I always felt that it's not enough. Reading this book felt like having his insights whenever I want them.

This book also has a parenting section which is very beneficial for teachers to understand parents and at the same time to understand how to talk to them about their child. 

Let me share with you a page that has been a reminder for me in my teaching experience.

Final Food for Thought....

Is it important to adapt and adjust my teaching style to meet the needs of all my students?

if you are a "D" teacher and only use your "D" qualities to teach, you will successfully teach 10% of your class and leaving behind 90% of your students. 

If you are an "I" teacher and use only your "I" qualities to teach, you will successfully teach 25-30% of your class, leaving behind 70-75% of your students.

If you are an "S" teacher and use only your "S" qualities to teach, you will successfully teach 30-35% of your class, leaving behind 65-70% of your students.

If you are an "C" teacher and use only your "C" qualities to teach, you will successfully teach 20-25% of your class, leaving behind 75-80% of your students.

So, these numbers made a huge impact on my teaching styles, to always adapt and adjust. Every child is special and unique. No one was supposed to be left behind.

Thanks for reading.

1. Let's help students

2. Let's help teachers

3. Let's help parents

Dear all

I was reading Zig Ziglar's weekly newsletter, really liked this one and thus love to share with ya'll! Enjoy and hope this is one of the aha's for parents out there...!

Zig On…Raising Positive Kids

By Zig Ziglar

Today I’d like to talk about a remarkable family from inner-city New Orleans, the Lundy-Smiths. Susie Mae Lundy and husband, Willie J. Smith, a Baptist pastor, raised nine successful children. According to Fortune magazine, the parents set an entrepreneurial example built around commitment, faith and hard work. Each child grew up with assigned responsibilities. By age five the six boys were expected to hose down and sweep the driveway of the family’s Exxon gas station and auto repair shop. Larry Lundy, owner of 31 Pizza Hut outlets, says they knew that what the family ate at the end of the day was contingent upon what they did during the day. That kind of motivation is pretty easy to understand - and can be very effective.

Today, Michael is a Mobil Oil executive in Houston; Harold is president of Louisiana’s Grambling State University; Mark and Wilton are psychiatric counselors in Houston; Nell is an elementary school teacher in Houston; Lloyd is a Vice President at Goodwill Industries in Beaumont, Texas; Jackie is an emergency room nurse and Yolanda is an accountant, both in New Orleans. All of them are hard-working, productive citizens and they started early. Back in 1978 all the kids led a fund-raising drive that raised about $65,000 to build the church their father now leads. These “kids” have also presented their parents with fourteen grandchildren and three great-grandchildren.

Yes, it looks like the American Dream is still alive for those who are willing to work hard and dream that American Dream, particularly if they have parents who guide and direct them early on. Think about it and I’ll SEE YOU AT THE TOP!

So Blessed!

Dear All

Today I felt so blessed and so loved by God. Being nice to people does make a great difference in life. It does pay to be nice. Pay it forward. I am sharing about this nice cabby who not only sang to me, he made my day by his positive attitude! Thank God there are still nice cabbies like Albert around, especially in Asia!

Have a blessed day!

Amy

Tip of the Week by Dr Rohm

Dear All First of all, thank you dearest Dyan for sharing her experience as a teacher using what we learned on using DiSC to be an effective and fun teacher! Let's give her a round of applause!! It is teachers like you that I applaud for your interest in our future leaders (our children!), always learning and applying to bring out the best in our kids in schools. It is our desire and hope, that one day, all teachers will know the secret to lesser stress in class is actually understanding all personalities! Amazing isn't it? Oh, oh, I just read Dr Rohm's Tip of the Week and I laughed, there are so many times, we jumped to conclusion in a jam! Yes, I am quite guilty of it. Now taking Dr Rohm's tip, make each experience a better and positive experience. Thank you Dr Rohm for your tip! For those of you who have not read yet, I have attached it below. I also can't wait to hear from everyone how you are applying your knowledge to life. :) Cheers and have a blessed week!

Tip: Responding is better than reacting! One day recently, I was driving in Atlanta traffic when suddenly it came to a stop. Everywhere I looked, traffic was at a stand-still. It just so happened that I was sitting on an overpass above the interstate, so I had a birds-eye view of what was happening. I noticed that one side of Interstate 285 was being closed down. From where I sat, I could see that it was because of a funeral procession for a police officer. The first part of the procession included several hundred motorcycle policemen. They were followed by a long line of police cars. After that were several fire trucks, ambulances and other medical vehicles. Finally, five helicopters flew overhead. With such a large procession, it completely shut down Interstate 285 for a long time. It was one of the most powerful things I had ever seen! The last time I remember actually seeing that much authority and power in one place, was several years ago when I was in traffic and the Vice President of the United States came to town. It really was amazing to watch the respect that was shown to the fallen police officer. He had been killed in the line of duty. Everyone who was able to observe what was taking place was very respectful. People stopped, got out of their cars, took off their hats, stood at attention, and paid their respects. It was a very moving moment. Again, because I was stopped on an overpass, I had a front-row seat to everything that was taking place around me, and I noticed that something else was happening. From my vantage point, I noticed that there were some drivers who were full of rage and anger because someone slowed down their progress. They were unaware of the reason for the delay, so they were angry. Someone actually had the audacity to get their spot on a piece of the pavement right in the middle of a funeral! I thought to myself, "If they only knew what was taking place, they would not react that way." Had they known that the traffic jam was because of a funeral for a fallen police office, they would have certainly changed their attitude. And, that is when it dawned on me that they were not responding to the situation, they were reacting to it. What was taking place in their minds boiled down to the fact that they did not know that two things were happening simultaneously. One was amisunderstanding of a demonstration of respect for a police officer, and the other was ignorance over the fact that no one was intentionally trying to inconvenience them! If you mix those two items together in the same cup, I can assure you that reacting will overpower responding every time. I also considered the strong possibility that had I not been able to see what was going on, it is very likely that I would have been one of the people reacting as well. After all, I am a very busy and important person, and I don't want anyone to ever get in my way or slow me down! What a joke! Since I travel so much and spend so much time in airports, I see the same thing happen there. It amazes me how upset people get at the ticket agents when there is the slightest glitch in the flight schedule. People react as though the ticket agent personally slowed down the progress of the planes in order to inconvenience their travel plans! I have discovered that flight delays actually offer great opportunity to get some extra paperwork done and make a few phone calls. Rather than it being a time to react like a child, it is much better to respond like a mature adult. It pays much better dividends, not only in my work load, but also in my emotional health as well. After all, I have found there is often very little I can do to change the flight circumstances in which I usually find myself. The truth is, in almost any given situation, if you take a deep breath and look around, you will be able to respond more appropriately. There is no point to go "ballistic" every time something does not go right in your life. Reacting only serves to raise your blood pressure and hurt your health. I am going to give you an assignment with this particular Tip. The next time something happens that does not go your way and really "ticks you off," ask yourself if JUST THIS ONE TIME it would be better to respond in a positive manner, rather than react in a negative manner. Try it on for size and see how it fits. You might be surprised at what you discover. I like it a lot and I trust that you will have the same experience! Tip: Responding is better than reacting! Have a great week! God bless you! Robert A. Rohm Ph.D. Personality Insights, Inc.